You’d see a woman who is grounded, self-led, lively, and deeply connected to herself.
A woman who is confident, lives with intention, and speaks passionately about what she believes in. Truthfully, that’s how I’ve been seen my whole life.

But what you couldn’t see… was what was happening underneath it.

For a long time, that version of me existed under the umbrella of image management. Behind it was a woman in deep emotional and spiritual pain, disconnected from herself, her purpose, and her life.

I lived in the blurred lines.

It was so deeply ingrained in my identity and the way I coped that I couldn’t imagine myself without it. It was my way to turn off. To step out of the performance. To get temporary relief from life.

Hiding how much I was drinking.
Hiding the chaos behind closed doors in my relationships.
Hiding how disconnected I felt from myself, my purpose, and my life.
I wasn’t physically dependent on alcohol, but I was habitually dependent on it.

Hiding how much I was drinking.

Hiding the chaos behind closed doors in my relationships.

Hiding how disconnected I felt from myself, my purpose, and my life.

I wasn’t physically dependent on alcohol, but I was habitually dependent on it.

And at the same time, I was hiding in plain sight.

I was was high-functioning, successful, responsible, and outwardly “fine."


I was was high-functioning, successful, responsible, and outwardly “fine."

The one who wanted to be more, and the one who kept self-sabotaging it.

The one who wanted to make people proud, and the one who felt like a disappointment.

The one who was complimented daily on her smile, and the one who cried in torrents when she was alone.


I lived right in the middle.
Managing it, justifying it, keeping it just controlled enough to stay under the radar.

Mentally, I was unraveling.

My lowest point didn’t look dramatic from the outside because no one saw it happen.
But to me, it was everything. I was not happy. And I knew alcohol was making my life harder than it needed to be.

Until I couldn’t anymore.

I saw that I had a choice. If I could choose to drink, I could choose not to.

Sobriety for me was never just about removing alcohol but learning how to live in my own life differently.

Alcohol for me was simply the most visible place where indecision, misalignment, and disconnection show up. When I removed it—everything underneath became clear.


I didn’t just stop drinking. I became someone new entirely. Someone who had to first come out of hiding, dismantle her perfectionism, release her people pleasing and image management tendencies, and surrender fully to rebuild from the inside out.

It was a total and complete reclamation of my energy, identity, voice, love, and power.

I trust myself. I’ve re-identified as an alcohol-free woman, and because of that, not drinking isn’t something I manage—it’s just how I live. I stand in that truth. I live in my purpose. I’ve built a life I don’t need to escape from—one that’s been tested in the crucible of real life, real grief, and real devastation. My sobriety isn’t dependent on my life being easy, gentle, or fair. 

  • I’m highly sensitive and naturally introverted. I can light up a dance floor and also be the first one home recharging in silence.
  • I love a slow, quiet morning. I’m a “slow boot up” kind of person.
  • I’m deeply spiritual and also incredibly practical.
  • I’m spontaneous—with a plan.
  • I protect my peace like it’s my job.
  • I’m very intuitive, and it shapes the way I coach.
  • For those who are wondering: Human Design Manifestor 6/3, Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Gemini Rising, and Enneagram Type 4
  • I love dogs. Seriously. Love dogs.
  • I don’t drink caffeine, but I never miss my decaf latte—it’s a ritual.
  • I eat an apple and a banana every single day (and yes, I absolutely sing the jingle in my head when I walk out of the store with just those two things).
  • I’m a water baby and a sea-level kind of woman—high altitudes humble me quickly.
  • I lived in an Airstream for a few years.
  • I ran away to Mexico and lived on the beach during COVID.
  • If there’s a stand-up paddleboard or a trampoline, I will be on it.
  • I was a nationally ranked competitive cheerleader and collegiate athlete.
  • I have a Bachelor of Arts in News Broadcasting and a minor in Women's Studies from Washington State University (Go Cougs!)
  • Usui Holy Fire III Karuna Reiki Master Teacher and certified Tibetan Sound Bowl practitioner. I own 38 sound bowls.

A few things about me, beyond the work—

I teach women how to access that same level of power—without needing to hit a breaking point first, Because the goal isn’t just to remove what’s not working.

It’s to become the woman who no longer needs it.

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